I want to talk about how ‘Flawsome’ you are.
Yes – FLAWSOME – stick with me on this one folks!
We all have our flaws and weaknesses and we all have our amazing strengths, skills, expertise & experience.
The issue is we focus far too much time on the former – our flaws rather than the latter – our awesomeness.
I, therefore, encourage you to start celebrating yourself, fully – by owning your flaws in admitting to them rather than dwelling or ruminating on them.
Then you are going to do that uncomfortable thing of reflecting on all of your achievements to recognise your awesome capabilities.
I use the following effective technique with a lot of my clients who wish to build up their confidence. Start by writing a list of all of your strengths, skills, talents, achievements and attributes. Keep adding to your list until you cannot think of any more.
Then ask your friends to chip in, your partner, your family, your colleagues, your boss – yes – everyone as cringy as it may feel – go and ask them!
Once you have your mega AWESOME YOU list keep it somewhere where you can see it everyday to remind yourself just how fantastic and capable you are. That’s that AWESOME part.
Let’s now move onto the FLAWSOME part. You’ve guessed it – write down all of the areas in which you want to improve – your flaws. Next to each one answer these questions with true honesty:
- How is this flaw truly holding me back?
- How much will improving in this area improve my life?
- If it will improve my life – to what extent will that be
- What will it take for me to improve in this area?
- Will my effort be worth the reward?
- If so – When can I start?
Now you have a concise action plan to take forward – this may change over time so continue to add to your AWESOME list and review your flaws – these may well become your assets!
To find out more and gain even more tips on improving your inner confidence and esteem then contact me as I’d love to learn more about how ‘flawsome’ you are.
Kx
